The SITuation

"Being an Empath" is one of the greatest gifts that gets the worst rap 

When it comes to:

• Feeling exhausted after sessions 
• Bathrooms urgencies (before, after, OR during sessions) 
• Feeling cranky AF after sessions & needing alone time to extremes
• Taking your clients pain (including waking up in the night with weird panic/sweating after working on some people)

#EmpathProblems ARE NOT always the problem! 

It's actually often a mismanagement of energy & responsibility.

Essentially, you're over-functioning in the client-practitioner relationship. 

(And chances are, if this is happening in sessions, this isn't the only place it's happening - ammi right? ).

This shows up as you doing 90% while letting your client (or partner, or co-workers, or whoever) do 10%.

But as a practitioner, healer, coach, guide - however you identify... 

Your job is NOT to fix, process, prove,...

A few months back, I went through an emotionally painful experience that provoked a'lotta rage & the desire for REVENGE.

Revenge energy is something I was familiar with as a hasty teen - but not now!!

Not as a “conscious LEADER”.

I was 100% caught in the riptide of RIGHTEOUSNESS.

My brain was orchestrating some serious ideas and taking me on a RIDE of all sorts of ways I could “make this person pay”.

It was not fun. It felt compulsive. I was not my best self.

V said to me, calmly, and without judgement:

“If you went through with doing this, as a way to get revenge, think about _________ and what she would think if she found out you did this?” (she name dropped one of our students).

In that moment, almost as if she waved a magic wand, the desire for revenge immediately dissipated.

The rampant thoughts of (admittedly ingenious) revenge ideas completely vanished.

The spin stopped, and all desire for 'making this...

Renegades! Are you ready for a real conversation about sex, sexuality and living your truth? 

Kelsey and Vanessa are taking this often taboo, always emotion-filled topic head on like only they can. 

From early childhood, many of us were told how we were supposed to act, and what it meant to be a man or woman. But what if “traditional” definitions have never felt right?

Have you wondered if other people felt that way too?

Most of us were not encouraged to express ourselves sexually. Instead, we were shamed or told that we had to fit into the mold that felt comfortable to others. There is seldom a place for curiosity without judgement.

Questions That Need Answers - Kelsey and Vanessa are going there. 

• What are we afraid to receive when we want to tap into our own sexuality?
• Does uninvited attention make you feel desired or unsafe?
• Do you seek out the affection of others or do you go into hiding to ensure no one really sees you?
• What does it mean to...

Is it okay to quit? How about faking it? Is it cool to put on a happy face and pretend that you love what you do even if it’s not completely true?

Vanessa and Kelsey are taking on another topic that we usually avoid. Quitting. What does it say about you? Is quitting good or bad?

“We’re always told not to start things we can’t finish – yet another example of traditional wisdom hooey-ing everything up. Ditto this whole notion of winners never quit and quitters never win. Winners quit all the time, because they trust the inner anarchy that says, “This is not quite right . . . yet.”

We need more attempts, less success. Success means that you picked one thing and then did it long enough to master it – which is less remarkable than it seems.

Success is often a function of persistence, not necessarily purpose.

A richer path, I believe, is made up of many false starts, not always resulting in triumph, but always resulting in...

"Nature does not rush and yet everything else gets done," - Tea Wisdom

Kelsey and Vanessa discuss what many are feeling, but aren’t saying out loud. 

The global pandemic has given us a space to slow down and discover what’s really important in our lives. How crazy is it that something so disruptive can give us that space to look at things from a different angle?

Vanessa lays it all out about how the pandemic might have been the world's way to tell her to: wake up and slow the fuck down down! It was in the loss of work and the urgency that life demanded when she realized that she didn’t want everything to go back to the old normal. 

We dive in on the term, “pivot”, and how it might just be another way to shift perspectives and see what our real priorities are. 

Kelsey talks more on how slowing down can change the way your brain works, plus how being in high-beta brain waves mode crushed Vanessa’s...