The SITuation

In Episode #22, Kelsey and Vanessa ponder what it means to choose joy and live fulfilling, meaningful lives or doing what they should.

We’ve all been told what we SHOULD be doing, heard who we should be, and told all the things we should choose and what success should look like.

When you live in SHOULD it impacts your health and your life. When you are trying to fit into the vision of who you should be instead of being who you truly are, it could burn you out, dull your light, and even become soul crushing.

Performing the should isn’t sustainable.

What if we asked ourselves what we actually want and then choose it? What if we chose our joy over a should?

Have you stopped to consider what it might be like if you stripped off all the SHOULDS?

Kelsey and Vanessa reminisce on what the global pandemic and the last year has taught them about their definition of success and shedding their shoulds. They dive into some of the personal growth and change they experienced....

Is it okay to quit? How about faking it? Is it cool to put on a happy face and pretend that you love what you do even if it’s not completely true?

Vanessa and Kelsey are taking on another topic that we usually avoid. Quitting. What does it say about you? Is quitting good or bad?

“We’re always told not to start things we can’t finish – yet another example of traditional wisdom hooey-ing everything up. Ditto this whole notion of winners never quit and quitters never win. Winners quit all the time, because they trust the inner anarchy that says, “This is not quite right . . . yet.”

We need more attempts, less success. Success means that you picked one thing and then did it long enough to master it – which is less remarkable than it seems.

Success is often a function of persistence, not necessarily purpose.

A richer path, I believe, is made up of many false starts, not always resulting in triumph, but always resulting in...